The Question White People Aren’t Asking

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What will we SACRIFICE? I don’t care how many white people join in protest; without sacrifice, the movement is just a joyride to us. What WILL we sacrifice? It can’t be comfort, time or safety. Those are resources we can spend on the struggle, but even doing so reinforces the privilege of having those things in the first place. WHAT … Read More

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Training, Self-Doubt & Fatal Flaws: What Social Work Taught Me about Police Work

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Have you ever restrained someone the size of Eric Garner? I have, and it was one of the easiest, most quickly resolved crises in which I’ve ever intervened. It was 2009 and I was working with severely emotionally disturbed teens in a locked residential facility. A young woman, weighing in at 300 lbs, had just tried to punch someone, so … Read More

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How to Trick Yourself into Happiness

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If you google how to be happy, you can actually find some pretty good advice. Most of it, unsurprisingly, is written in the imperative. But when has simply telling people what to do resulted in them following through — especially when the tasks are complicated or abstract? Just do it. We’re talking about happiness here — if it was as simple as … Read More

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When the Smoke Clears

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You have to be careful on the internet, or you might get sucked into a black hole. I was exploring Costa Rica when Ferguson, MO started exploring the boundaries of chaos. I was aware of it, but didn’t have time to read everything until this past weekend. I procrastinated, knowing how emotional I might become, knowing I could veil my … Read More

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How are we going to fix society?

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Seriously, how? I see a lot of good work being done, some of it even by my own hands, but when I step back and look at the state of altruism in America all I really see is band-aid solutions. Non-profits, activist groups, volunteer efforts — these are all good things that make life on earth a little less tarnished … Read More

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The Republicans Fired Me

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You may have heard about the unaccompanied minor crisis: thousands of children fleeing across the Mexican border from terrifying situations in places like Honduras, Guatemala and El Salvador. I have a friend who works with these kids at a temporary shelter and, if you want to know why they’re coming, take it from a teenage girl she works with who … Read More

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Two white guys walk into a lunch meeting…

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It didn’t seem like only two white guys in the room. I had happily volunteered to share my experiences with strengths-based assessment working with homeless teens during the first group question, and the facilitator had asked several follow-up questions. After that, the other white male in the room introduced an interesting ethical dilemma. I had what I thought was an … Read More

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Reconciliation

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Knowledge of self is a double-edged sword; wielded properly it cuts through illusion and ploy, while incidentally it slices the threads of easy kinship. He who would seek the light of self must expect neither company nor encouragement in the shadow of a society that does not know itself. If he can endure isolation and doubt, the seeker will find … Read More

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The Worst Thing About Being Broke

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The last time I got a parking ticket was when I was still struggling to make ends meet. As I ripped it violently off my window, I growled out, “Why are you trying to fuck with me?” I’m usually a very calm person. But there’s something particularly upsetting about being broke. It’s not the constant juggling act of which bills to … Read More

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Selflessish

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I’m a case manager for homeless youth. I make a joke of a salary, work long hours, and have to wrestle with bureaucracy at every turn just to accomplish simple tasks. Yet, there’s nothing else I’d rather do. This is not because I’m a selfless person, it’s because the positive impact I observe in the lives of these kids is … Read More

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