“Shit White Girls Say…to Black Girls” is not racist

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If you’ve been sleeping under a rock you may have missed one of the best adaptations of of the “shit girls say” meme:

This video has sparked a lot of discussion, most of it very positive and productive. Still, there are some upset white people who think this video is racist or presents a double standard. To them I offer this:

Soren“Shit White Girls Say…to Black Girls” is not racist

21 Comments on ““Shit White Girls Say…to Black Girls” is not racist”

  1. Alana 2

    Thanks for the video comment! Like Tim Wise, sometimes the identity of the messenger can increase the odds of the message getting across. Hope the blog goes well.

  2. Tristan

    Thank you for this! You have shed light on something that not many white people seem to get. When your way of life is considered the norm, the standard, etc., you can’t cry reverse racism the moment you hear something you don’t like. Black people have been making fun of white people for years. Scores of comedy careers have been built on such banter. Do white people really not see that there’s not one thing a black person can say about them that would change their station in life? Again, kudos to you for knowing better. Quite refreshing.

  3. A black girl

    I just came over here from Clutch (where they spotlighted your video) to tell you I love you. Thank you for joining us in front the firing squad.

    -A black girl

  4. nicole

    So on point. Thank you for doing this.

    I’m still uncertain why some white women were somehow offended by SWGSTBG. Was it Francesca’s vocal inflections? The mannerisms? The statements? The wig?

    Seriously, if you’re a white woman and you felt insulted–or somehow diminished as a person by any/all of the above–imagine for a sec how black women have to process the vapidity and sheer cluelessness of these interactions on a near daily basis.

    Since the video first came out, probably thousands (if not tens of thousands) of black women across the innertubes have echoed their own personal experiences with the exact same scenarios portrayed.

    Notice I never mentioned racism.

    I/we can’t always be sure if you’re racist, bigoted, dumb–or just a garden variety asshole–but it gets real old, real fast….

  5. Tiffany

    Sir, are you married because I think I just fell in love!

    No, but seriously it is so refreshing to see someone outside of black race actually “get it” and state many of the same things that a lot of black folks express to each other. I personally have experienced many of the things in the “Sh*t White girls say to black girls” video by both men and women of other races (and even some within the black race) and to see it portrayed in this way by Franchesca was like a breath of fresh air. My hope is that it continues to spur the uncomfortable conversations because that is the only way change is going to occur.

  6. It Figures!

    I viewed you video on Clutch Magazine’s website. I just wanted you to know it was love at first viewing. I never thought love at first sight was real.
    I would love to show this video to the world. If it goes viral in America, that would be a huge help in making people think about the way blacks are portrayed and perceived. Well spoken truth about the reality of being black. Thanks so much.

  7. Megan

    You know the funny thing about this all, is that people who don’t want to admit their own privilege are doing themselves a disservice.

    Even those traits of that bring discrimination bring with them certain “bonuses” that the majority may not experience. I’m a Black female and have had White female friends tell me that they never feel they can be angry in front of a boyfriend…something I’ve never felt restricted by…it’s not as heavy a restriction as racism, but it is one nonetheless. Same with being male/female. We as women are more free to express and deal with our emotions while men have to break through more barriers to deal with theirs…again, that doesn’t hold a candle to sexism, but it is real.

    The odd part though is that movements that defend the rights of the majority never seem to target their true burdens, and instead look for examples that mirror the oppressed around them.

  8. RadioRascoe

    Omg thank you thank you thank you… You are so right. Thanks for having the guts, no the balls to do something that so desperately needed to be done.

  9. Stephanie

    Let me start by saying PREACH!

    I felt your response 100% and definitely appreciate you taking the time to put your thoughts out there. They were exactly what needed to be said but at the end of the day, ignorance has so many in a headlock, you shouldn’t have had to say all that anyway.

    It was comedic a depiction of how a lot of woman of color are made to feel everyday! I cracked up tremendously when I saw it not only because I have lived some of those reactions and responses but because the shit was crazy funny!

    I love Francesca’s video and I dig your vibe on the topic as well. Muchos Gracias for saying it loud and proud instead of getting on the strong and wrong bandwagon these other fools tend to get on!

    P.S. Anyone ever tell you that you are quite handsome when adamantly voicing your opinion and spreading some truth! ;)

  10. Alicia

    Its rare to see a white person speak with such accuracy about the way we view race and stereotypes in america. Id say you are the second person i’ve seen express the state of things so clearly.

    Human beings would benefit greatly from more accurate perceptions in our interpersonal communications. I’ve spent time training myself to modify my experiences of “reality” and its quite fascinating the way everything will literally change before your eyes. As a traveling black woman, its made a world of difference. I’ve learned that many of the things we feel about other people is just us projecting our own emotions/experiences onto things they do/say.

    In the past, when we were cavemen, this “projection” served to save us from a tiger around the corner, or get us out of a difficult situation. But this projection is no longer useful due to the rapid developments of modern society. Things we “learn” become outdated in as little as 10-20 years. The problem associated with the video in question is a part of a much larger issue of how we are adapting to modern society.

  11. Nikesha

    Very well said. I really enjoyed your video response because you touched on so many issues Black people face on a daily basis that we rarely are able to express in mixed circles because the conversation becomes immediately inflamed and racial undertones often turn into overt claims and myopic statements about each other that aren’t true.

  12. Shanif

    You have so eloquently articulated exactly what I have been trying to express for years. I feel incredibly understood by you. Thank you for this post. I saw it on a Facebook stream today. Looking forward to following your blog.

  13. Danniranx

    Thank you, really appreciated you putting your thoughts on the matter out there, especially on the definition of racism. Looking forward to following your blog, you have an opinion worth consideration.

  14. Monique

    Just wanted to echo the comments of so many others and thank you for clearly articulating something that is often overlooked, pushed aside, and brushed under the table. This is real talk, I hope people listened and got to think about what you said. Thank you – BRAVA!

  15. Natasha

    I think that was the most refreshing and honest you tube video i’ve seen in… maybe forever. you’ve just made a new blog/youtube follower out of me!

  16. Tasha

    I really enjoyed your video, and so far I’m loving this blog. I will for sure save you to my facebook page.

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